I just read a great posting on self compassion from http://www.UrbanMonk.net. That path - the one that leads from self blame/criticism/hatred/shame to self compassion and kindness - is one I've certainly been on, and more often than not I'm encountering others on that same journey through my work and in the world. Here are some resources for the trip:
Dr. Kristen Neff has a book, Self-Compassion, and a website:
Dr. Rick Hanson has a book, Buddha's Brain, and a website:
Dr. Paul Gilbert has a book, The Compassionate Mind, and a website:
Dr. Cristopher Germer has a book, The Mindful Path To Self Compassion and a website:
Here is a song, Gentle With Myself, by Karen Drucker: http://youtu.be/ihWYx-QJ95I
"If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete"
(This quote is sometimes attributed to Buddha, sometimes to Jack Kornfield, but why split hairs?)